Why Do Guys Always Pick Female Characters in Video Games? Is It Psychological or Just... Fun?

Why do men often pick female characters in video games? Explore the psychology behind gender choices in gaming and what it reveals about escapism, identity, and fun.

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Savitar

9/30/20244 min read

Anya Forger Shushing
Anya Forger Shushing

We’ve all seen it. A guy fires up his favorite video game, and what does he choose? A badass female character with killer armor, perfect hair, and moves that would make any action star jealous. But why? What’s going on inside the minds of these players that make them say, “Yeah, I’m totally going with the girl this time”? Is it some deep-rooted psychological impulse, or is it just that female characters look cooler in battle?

And let’s not ignore the reverse! There are plenty of girls who pick male characters when they game. So, is this a case of role reversal, sexual attraction, or just plain fun? Let's dive in.

The Visual Appeal: Eye Candy or Immersion?

Let’s get the obvious out of the way first: guys like looking at female characters. Is that such a shocker? If you’re going to spend hours grinding away in a game, you might as well enjoy the view, right? This theory is often thrown around as the go-to explanation. In third-person games where players spend a lot of time looking at their character’s back (literally), it makes sense that they’d prefer a character they find attractive.

But wait, there’s more to it. Some players argue that playing as a female character actually makes the experience more immersive. They feel more connected to the story when they can control a character who isn’t just another bulky, macho, sword-wielding dude. Female characters often bring more nuance to a game’s storyline—and honestly, who doesn’t love a character with depth?

The Psychology of Gender-Swapping

Here’s where things get interesting. According to psychology, picking a character of the opposite gender can be a form of self-expression. In games, you get to be someone completely different from who you are in real life. So, why not explore a character of another gender? It’s a way to break out of everyday life and experiment with identity in a safe, fun environment.

Carl Jung’s theory of the anima and animus comes into play here. In Jungian psychology, every person has a feminine side (anima) and a masculine side (animus). Playing as a female character allows guys to tap into their anima, exploring their feminine side without feeling out of place. Similarly, when girls play male characters, they may be tapping into their animus, experimenting with traits that society traditionally associates with men—strength, leadership, and aggression.

Sexualization or Empowerment?

Now let’s talk about the elephant in the room: is it sexual? Well… sometimes, yeah. Video games are notorious for over-sexualizing female characters, from their outfits to their body proportions. And let’s be honest: some players pick female characters because they like how they look. There’s no need to get too deep with that—it’s just a thing.

But here’s the twist: not all female characters are sexualized. In fact, many of them are just as strong, smart, and complex as their male counterparts. Some male players choose female characters because they find them more interesting to play, not because they’re looking for eye candy. Female characters often bring unique abilities and perspectives to the game, making them powerful avatars of empowerment, not just objects of desire.

Why Do Girls Pick Male Characters?

And then we have the flip side: why do girls pick male characters? This can be for a lot of reasons. Some female players might pick a male character because they feel it gives them more authority in the game. After all, in many online multiplayer games, male characters are often perceived as stronger or more dominant, so it’s a practical choice.

But it’s not always about power. For some women, playing a male character might simply feel more comfortable, especially in communities where female gamers can face harassment. Choosing a male avatar can provide a shield of anonymity, making it easier to avoid unwanted attention.

The Role of Gender Fluidity in Gaming

Games allow us to explore parts of our identity in ways we might not in the real world. As gaming communities have grown more inclusive, players have started experimenting with gender in ways that weren’t as common before. Many players don’t feel limited by traditional gender roles in games—they pick whichever character they feel the most connection with, regardless of gender.

This has a lot to do with the growing acceptance of gender fluidity in society. For some, picking a character of the opposite gender isn’t about sexuality or fantasy—it’s just a natural reflection of how they see themselves or how they want to experience the game.

So... Is It Psychological?

In short, yes. There are plenty of psychological reasons why people choose characters of the opposite gender. But at the end of the day, it’s all about having fun. Video games are a place where you can be whoever you want, without judgment. So whether you’re playing as a kick-ass female warrior or a rugged male hero, what really matters is that you’re enjoying the game.

Final Thought: Maybe it’s time to stop overthinking why people choose certain characters and just let them play. After all, gaming is about escapism—and sometimes, stepping into the shoes of a character that’s nothing like you is the best escape of all.